More than my scars.
I understand how it feels to have wounds so deep that it seems like they may never heal. The scars from our own experiences and from seeing our families struggle can linger and refuse to fade away. Bandages can help temporarily, but making positive changes as we grow older can be challenging without taking the necessary steps for natural healing. Breaking free from generational patterns, healing from the past, and adopting new behaviors can be an overwhelming and unfair investment of effort. Often, people who are struggling with issues can break free because they are not only trying to manage themselves but also the wounds that their family has not yet healed from.
Wound— the issues that have occurred in your life ( past trauma, failed relationships, grief, unforgiveness, negative messages, etc.)
Bandage— the methods by which you cover the issues by disclosing the root of the pain (alcohol, drugs, no accountability, refusal to discuss issues, etc.)
Healing—If you address the wound (problem) without continually covering up the bandage ( negative ways to handle pain), you can improve your ability to work through resolving hardships.
Taking responsibility for their family's issues can give individuals a sense of empowerment and a belief that they can navigate the healing process. However, this approach can inadvertently exacerbate the issues if there is a lack of accountability. The unresolved problems linger and continue to impact them until they commit to actively addressing and improving their circumstances.
As you mature, you realize that everyone is fallible, and changing your approach is crucial. The wounds you bear symbolize the unresolved issues in your life that continue to cause you emotional pain. These wounds are still open because they haven't been adequately addressed and allowed to heal. They may have been caused by emotional pain, betrayal, or a lack of support. Situations that can be beyond your circumstances, but yet while trying to move past the pain, the person gets constantly stuck in it.
Dealing with generational trauma can add a whole new layer of challenges. Many people lean on traditional coping mechanisms to navigate their lives. Over time, these methods may lose effectiveness, and negative thoughts, behaviors, and actions can take deep root, making it seem almost impossible to break free from once-believed best coping strategies. It's a struggle when it becomes clear that those core memories hold the stories of so many things - shaping your relationships, making it harder for you to believe that you are worthy enough to be loved, that you are incapable of making changes, and that your past constantly define you.
Scars are deeply embedded in the bloodline of generations, serving as a testament to the struggles and traumas they have endured. When there is no significant change to address and reflect the essence of this pain, it becomes increasingly difficult for future generations to comprehend the complexities of their past. This lack of understanding hinders their ability to heal from the emotional and psychological wounds that linger. As a result, the journey toward true freedom—free from the weight of inherited sorrow—remains elusive and fraught with challenges. Only by acknowledging and confronting these scars can they hope to pave a path toward healing and liberation.
